Should You Take The Off Ramp?

pexels-photo-236047.jpegAlas for those that never sing, but die with the music in them.” Oliver Wendell Holmes.

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You have a goal, one that matters to you. One that you secretly would love to accomplish and yet, you never manage to achieve it.

WHY?

In my experience, it’s because you took the off-ramp.The diversion and you ignored the sign that said WRONG WAY. GO BACK Instead you went ahead and forgot the route that you had planned for yourself.The one taking you one step closer to achieving a goal.  You allowed yourself to be diverted And there are lots of diverting things out there. TV, movies, friends, books, 

Perhaps you told yourself “I can do it later,” or maybe even “it’s not so important.”

Deep down though you know that you shortchanged yourself. You let yourself down, again.You let yourself off easy.

It matters, especially when it is a goal that no-one else can achieve for you. No one else can exercise at the gym for you. Or can lose weight for you, it is you personally who have to put in the effort.

You want to write a book? Lot’s of people do want to have their name on a book. Someone could ghostwrite a book for you, but will that satisfy you? It would not satisfy me.If I publish a book I want it to be my own work.

We get in our own way. We do take the off-ramp.

 

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I believe it’s a self-protective mechanism, if we never try, then we never fail.

We fear failure, but perhaps we fear success even more.If we do nothing then we can keep dreaming our dreams and never have to do anything about them.

Are you happy with that? This year I am aiming to do more and to reach for my dreams. If I don’t succeed, I will at least have tried.

 

Author: soniabellhouse

Sonia Bellhouse is a contributor to Writing the Dream, an anthology for published writers produced by Serenity Press in 2016. In 2012she won two major awards in the inaugural Rockingham Short Fiction contest. Sonia's articles and stories are published in various magazines both in Australia and the UK. These include Good reading, Today's Bride, That's Life! and That's Life! Fast Fiction in Australia and Yours, The People's Friend and Best of British in the Uk. Sonia worked as a book reviewer for two years .As an avid reader and writer of multiple genres she facilitated a local book club for eleven years. She reluctantly decided to give it up, to concentrate on her writing. Sonia is a long time member of a writers group, regularly engaging authors to present workshops to the group.. Sonia enjoys catching up with friends, ignoring the ironing in favour of playing with her cat and learning new things. She's taken several online courses with Future Learn and The University of Iowa for both writing and non writing topics.